Rejection is the second biggest fear after death but both are obvious in everyone’s life. The only fact which makes it worse is that we are not taught how to deal with rejection, neither at school nor at home. For someone who has always got things of his/her choice, getting a rejection in love, friendship, and other major aspects of life make things worse for them.
The pain, anger, and all negative emotions surround their minds and gradually they redirect to the wrong path. Here having strong willpower, mind, and determination is important, or else one will sway away in the flood of negativity.
But nothing happens in one go, it takes strong willpower and support. More importantly, self-awareness is the key to dealing with rejection. If you have ever faced this phase or going through it, this guide is just right for you.
Part 1- How To Deal With Rejection
1. Understand The Psychology
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Nobody can predict what will happen in the second moment, right? But we can at least prepare our mind for both best (needs no training) and the worst (hard to accept) no matter what the case is. It could either be a love proposal, an office promotion, or not getting selected in an interview.
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These things seem a matter of life and death at that instant because our mind is wired in that way. It wants to feel value every time and those in self-doubt will always wonder the answer- YES or NO! And if No, Why?
Just Stop!!! Do not get trapped in this toggle mode of the brain which has no control over the results. It steals your mental peace and distracts you from reality.
2. Go With Flow
Once you realize that things are not in your control dealing with rejection becomes easy (not that much) But what about emotions that will naturally flow at that time. You may want to hurt the other person or yourself or simply want to shout loudly. What to do??
Don’t hold them back, absorb all emotions but never try to hurt anyone.
Part 2- Three R’s Of Dealing With Rejection
After some time when you cool down try to look at the big picture and find answers to why and how. These three R’s will help you move forward.
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• Recognize- There is always a reason behind rejection you just have to identify it. For ex- maybe that girl you proposed was not ready or having some other issues. Ask directly instead of making theories in your head. Or the reason behind you did not get selected was a lack of skills. Simply ask questions to understand what went wrong.
• Relearn- Now you know all reasons for being turned down. What’s next? It’s time to rebuild you just like a phoenix rising from the ashes. Work upon the skills that were missing. Find other opportunities, take risks and keep going. Once you start filling the gaps, chances of rejection will reduce automatically.
• Refuse- Many people don’t know how to deal with rejection because they start believing that they are non-deserving, unloving, and incompetent. Do not accept these words. They neither define you nor your future. It’s all in your hand. Just reject this negativity to belittle you.
Work on these three things and soon you’ll feel better.